Respectful connecting and communicating is making a comeback. The once considered old-fashioned way of joining our energy, and meeting one another with reverence, is now the exquisite way to be. Feeling a little bored with the lack of true, intimate and respectful connection?- me too. For this reason, a re-emergence of compassionate human relations through the heart, mind and body is a must.
Due to fear-driven health politics, elements of interpersonal relating– from the common handshake to the respectful kiss on the cheek or hand, have become minimal. Human beings are most alive when they touch each other- emotionally and physically. We are not meant to be sterile machines trapped behind a mask within a fearful mind and world. No, we are meant to meet each other in the heart and to touch each other with respect and adoration.
What is Respectful Connecting in Relationships?
One could say that relationships become respectful when we first become respectful with ourselves. The mirror from our innerness is reflected out into the world that only appears to be surrounding us.
A healthy mind- filled with uplifting thoughts and combined with balanced emotions, contributes to harmonious relationships. With this mindset and energy, we tend to attract those of a similar nature.
Clear communication, understanding, and honesty are essential pillars for the foundation of respectful relating. The connection must be mutual, and with sincerity, leads to trust. This form of relating creates an uplifting and supportive experience for those in the relationship.
Elemental Examples of Respectful Connecting between Lovers and Friends:
- No Hierarchy.
- The engagement brings upliftment, support and energy.
- Inter-connectedness exists.
- Unity and equality are embodied within the relationship of unique individuals.
- There is harmony and balance in the connection.
- Because of resonance, the relationship was formed and exists. Resonance is to be maintained.
- Mutual respect, trust and a nurturance of each other.
- There is an intrinsic relationship between the two; e.g. Share/Receive, Complementary balancing.
- No egoistic rationale for the connection.
- Soul-depth is present.
Why is Respect Essential and Important?
Relationships grounded in respectfulness, are absolutely essential for our emotional and physical health. When we are balanced within ourselves, and are in-tune with who we are on the inside, everything on the outside flourishes. Thus, practices for self-care and self-love are essential in being caring and loving towards others. Often, it is this very relationship to one’s Self that is the only limitation to Soulful fusion with others.
Through respect we create environments for our relationships where each person feels safe and supported. Respect is essential for the other to feel safe, cared for and secure in the building of the relationship. Furthermore, your respect towards another, encourages them to be respectful to you as well as themselves. We can then extend this respect from our relationship out into society and our world at large.
The Consequences of not Creating Respectful Relationships
Being able to be alone, and enjoy it, is essential. To be fully in balance with one’s Self is a part of that yin and yang equation to be in healthy relationship with others too. When one of these aspects is missing, often a large part within someone can feel unfulfilled. We fulfill others and they too fulfill us. That being said, it is when we feel connected to ourselves that we too can feel so deeply connected with another.
Loneliness can occur when a person is completely alone, as is most common, yet as well when with a significant other and friends. When this transpires, the person is not connected with their inner Self, their heart and Soul. There can be many reasons for this and one can be not knowing one’s Self. Once you know yourself, stay true to that Self.
Lack of caring and respectful connections can lead to health challenges as well as depressive and even suicidal thoughts. While some people enjoy more alone time than others, relating and connecting with others is essential for healthy living. Building respectful connections means that we are building lifelong relationships that sustain life.
What is Non-Beneficial Emotional Fusion?
Non-beneficial, emotional fusion with another can only exist when you are not embodied in your wholeness as a unique individual. There is a difference between healthy emotional, physical and soulful spiritual connection and losing your groundedness in who you are as a unique Sovereign.
People who do not have a strong sense of Self often rely on fusing their relationships as a way to develop a sense of identity. Because of the unconscious form of this style of relating, the relationship can often navigate away from respect and towards dependency in its unhealthiest form.
Thus, it is absolutely fundamental to know yourself, understand who you are and to be at peace with being on your own before creating a conscious connection with another person.
Continue to develop and be your unique Self. It will be very rewarding for both you and your relationship.
How to stay Sovereign in Healthy Relating
True autonomy can become the basis for deep and passionate love. Our interconnectedness is invaluable as well as essential. However, this must be done in a way that does not impede upon our Sovereign essence. It is an absolute must to maintain our own unique thoughts and feelings in life as this is a reflection of who we are in the ocean of humanity. The relationship becomes enriched through your different flavors and the world becomes enlivened.
Know that your individual needs and choices are just as important as those in your joint relationship. Putting your needs first is not selfish when done in a communicative way that embodies skillful love. You will then be able to witness the same in your partner. When you each choose to live in a way that honors each other’s individuality, it makes the connection more intriguing and gives it depth. You can continue to learn from each other and be excited by the other; versus, falling into a routine pattern that is not fulfilling for either person.
This too is just as important in friendships and platonic relationships. Being Sovereign in a relationship does not interfere with your emotional connection and can in fact enhance it. You can fuse together in a way that allows for individuality and the trust created feels not threatened by individual freedom.
Body and Emotions Talk: Connect with Respect
Soulful fusing involves caring about one another and, thus, engaging each other with sincere respect. Coming from a place of wholeness within, where we also sincerely care for and love ourselves, this becomes natural and effortless. Because you are in a relationship, not out of neediness but out of love, everyone is enhanced. Once you have begun to connect in this way, you will see your life begin to transform and unfold in the most beautiful ways.
From casual to intimate connecting, Soulful relating from the heart and essence of your being becomes a must as you touch infinity through this energetic embrace. You will want all of your connections and relationships to feed you in this way. They need to be caring, compassionate, reliable, respectful and fulfilling. Ideally, we can touch each other in ways that no one else can. This is especially true when we are embodying our uniqueness.
Do things that you find interesting and that bring you joy. Stay in tune with who you are and connect with others from your unique wholeness. The world is more beautiful and interesting when we are embodied as our unique Soul intended. Connect respectfully with others, being true to who you are from the inside out. Transform your life through respectful connecting.
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